Divorce is not something you wish upon any married couple. It can tear a family apart, and be really hard for the children to come to terms with. Even if the two of you split up amicably, it will still be a new world for your children, and they will struggle.
There are loads of things that can happen, and many questions that need answering. Who will have custody of the children? What will the arrangements be for seeing the parent that doesn’t have custody? And, how can you make everything as easy as possible for your kids?
You can find the answers to all three of these questions right here:
Who will have custody of the children?
Custody battles are really never great for any of the people involved. Your children won’t know what’s going on, and tension will grow between you and your ex-partner. It can turn an amicable breakup sour, real quick. Dads often get the harsher end of the deal here, with moms usually being granted custody. There’s no harm in finding an attorney that lets you ask a free child custody question to see if you have a right to keep your kids. If you feel they’re better off with you, for genuine reasons, then you should go ahead and make your case. In my eyes, all that matters is that the child is in a safe and loving home. If one parent can’t provide that, then the custody battle is easy. If both can, then it has to be settled through lawyers.
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What will the visiting arrangements be?
The parent that doesn’t get custody will want to know when they’ll see their children. In most cases, you have to sort this out between the two of you. Some people agree that the kids go to the other parent every weekend. Others are more lenient and say they can go and see them whenever they want. Just make sure that both parents get to see their children, and allow the one who doesn’t have custody to spend a week or two with the kids every couple of months or so. Your children need both parents in their life, so don’t shut one out.
How do you make divorce easy for children?
In reality, divorce will be very hard for children, and they may think about it for the rest of their lives. To make things easier, it helps if you sit with them and explain what’s going on. Let them know the situation, and make sure you speak very lovingly too. Most importantly, tell them it’s not their fault, and that you’re doing this because it will lead to a happier home for everyone. Try and tell them a few good things they have to look forward to now, like two Christmas Days, and twice the amount of birthday presents.
Divorce will never be good for kids, but hopefully, this advice helps you out in some way. If you’re currently going through a divorce, then be strong, if not for your sake, then for the sake of your children. There’s nothing worse than seeing your parents cry, so try and keep it together for them.
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