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Traits2016-12-03T11:06:04-05:00

What are we writing about?

Each week, parents from around the world are writing on a specific topic as part of a year’s worth of introspection on some key traits we want to consider for our kids.

Our writers answer the question, “What do you do to teach your kids about Empowerment, Generosity, etc?”

We understand that no one can focus on 52 unique traits; however, we hope that parents are able to think about each of these ‘traits’ as they are introduced and consider what they are doing to introduce components to their kids.

Our Traits

Be Positive
Be Resilient
Be Respectful
Be Mindful
Be Supportive
Be Decisive
Be Empowered
Be Focused
Be Hopeful
Be Insightful
Be Ethical
Be Leader
Be Restless

Be Tough
Be Independent
Be Influential
Be Innovative
Be Open-Minded
Be Inspirational
Be Funny
Be Sensitive
Be Listener
Be Kind
Be Humble
Be Polite
Be Content

What Do You Say? Why We Want Our Kids To Be Personable!

February 27th, 2017|0 Comments

Each time I take my two children out grocery shopping or errand running, I’m very mindful about their manners and social interaction. My wife has the same priorities, and our kids are generally well-behaved, especially in public. They are actually starting to get a bit of a reputation, I learned recently. A few months ago, I was out shopping with both kids at a local “big box store”. We stopped to pick up a sample from one of the tables at the end of an aisle. “Oh, you must be the father!” the sample lady suddenly exclaimed. “Why yes. Yes, I am,” I stumbled, unsure of her meaning.

I am mine.

October 11th, 2016|0 Comments

There are lines in songs or books, maybe even a film that strikes a chord with people.  We all [...]

“Be Open to whatever comes next.”

“Energy and persistence conquer all things. Benjamin Franklin”

Be Patient

September 26th, 2016|0 Comments

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh Patience is [...]

“Sometimes things aren’t clear right away. That’s where you need to be patient and persevere and see where things lead. Mary Pierce”

  • Can Noah Come Out and Play

Can Noah Come Out and Play?

August 7th, 2017|0 Comments

The little girl stands at the doorstep, smiling after asking the question. Noah shouts "hello" to the little girl, then asks “can I go out please Daddy?” I begrudgingly say, “yes” and give him a five-minute limit.

Encourage Others and Encourage Yourself

August 3rd, 2017|0 Comments

Encouragement is promoting one’s well being and helping them strive to their full potential. In order to teach our children to be encouraging we must show them by our own actions towards others and how we raise them should be encouraging as well. Encouragement goes a long way. It helps with self-image and can help others feel good and motivate them to push themselves to pursue their dreams.

  • Yes, I’ll Wrestle with You

Yes, I’ll Wrestle with You

August 2nd, 2017|0 Comments

I don't have many memories from my life as a young child: a few images or feelings that, given the malleability of memory, may or may not represent reality. With this letter (and perhaps others in the future), I hope to provide my son with a window into his life and our relationship during his early childhood years.

  • Please Kids, Remain Humble

Please Kids, Remain Humble

August 1st, 2017|0 Comments

One of the key things I want my children to learn is to remain HUMBLE. We were once at rock bottom, living in the shelter while their mom was pregnant. This was not an ideal situation for anyone, but we got through it and back on our feet. We are not better than anyone else and at one point in time, we were probably in a very similar situation.

  • Tilting the Hourglass - Slowing Down Time

Tilting the Hourglass: Slowing down time

July 13th, 2017|0 Comments

If you could stop time and look around, what would you see?  As parents, we live busy lives. If you are like me, we’re always pushing the kids to get ready a quickly. “Come on - we have to go! Why don’t you have your shoes on, yet?” Between working (sometimes more than one job) and keeping up with our kids’ lives, we just don’t seem to have time. As we keep active and try to keep on schedule for the next activity, we often miss what is actually happening.

Please join our parenting challenge!

June 28th, 2017|0 Comments

GetConnectDad.com has one goal:  Create More Connected Families.   As part of that goal, we have created an easy to follow 'template' that you can use to engage your family a little differently.   This 4-week series is designed to help you identify areas in your family where you can gain some more time, build a more solid connection with your kids and enjoy your time together more fully!

11 Ways to Nurture Your Child’s Relationship With Their Grandparents

June 15th, 2017|0 Comments

Having parents who want to be involved with your kids is a blessing. Having kids who want to be around their grandparents is a gift as well. Family time, especially the quality you give it, is vital. Strong connections have been found to correlate with a longer and happier life. It’s not a definite factor, of course, but it can certainly help.

  • I miss my daughter

I called my daughter for the first time in a few years.

June 14th, 2017|0 Comments

Wow, you say? Dad of The Year, you say? You run a successful parenting blog, you say? Yes, yes, yes. You see, the reality is I lost custody of my 22-year-old daughter when she was 13. I had 13 wonderful years where I was activity engaged in her life. That time came to an end when a judge, who knew me for less than 2 hours, took my engagement in her life away. The judge said, “I know she testified that she wants to stay with the father, but she is a girl and needs to be with her mom.” That was ten years ago.

  • Be Happy

Be Happy: keep your head up and to keep going!

June 6th, 2017|0 Comments

When my daughter, Harper, was two-years-old, we were all enjoying a big bowl of spaghetti – a favorite of my daughter’s. She was tired of putting the noodles into her mouth so she decided to see what would happen if she put the noodles in her ear, in her nose and lastly… between her toes. My wife was having none of this and sternly said: “Please don’t put spaghetti between your toes!” I looked at my wife and thought: this is our new normal, and it made me happy.

4 Ways to Use Vulnerability as Your Parenting Power Tool

June 2nd, 2017|0 Comments

As men, we are told that we need to “suck it up”, “man up”, “never let ’em see ya sweat”. Whether it was from your parents or from society in general, the message was clear. Don’t be vulnerable. Protect yourself and don’t let other’s notice your weakness or sensitivity. Vulnerability movements in male circles are gaining momentum and that’s great news. However, there is one area where I feel that it is still not addressed, though most badly needed: parenting.

Honesty: A lost art

June 2nd, 2017|0 Comments

In a growing world of instantaneous communication with thousands of people throughout the world, the idea of being honest has been lost. People post on twitter, facebook and all of social media about their lives, often adding in things that didn’t happen, or removing facts to make themselves look worse, or better to other people to reach their goals of influencing these strangers into thinking that they are better or worse off than those strangers. Kind of weird huh? But there is another level to it. Our children.

  • This Makes Life Worth Living

This Makes Life Worth Living

May 9th, 2017|0 Comments

Yesterday my Son and I took an impromptu trip to my headquarters (home depot) because I had a random idea for our back yard that I just had to act on. I loaded up my son in the truck and gave him his toys, and blankets, which he promptly threw off, and were on our way.

  • The World needs Men

The World Needs Men

April 29th, 2017|0 Comments

The World needs Men. Men are the key architects of our bridge to the future. And our children are our future – our bridge to the future. Yes, Men are necessary.

  • Fatherhood is Global

Fatherhood. It’s a Global Movement

April 28th, 2017|0 Comments

Children have always been the center of a man’s universe. Since the beginning of time, Fathers have cast their own dreams aside and given our children – our bridge to the future – the freedom to dream dreams.

  • Be Curious

How To Nurture Curiosity In Your Child

April 28th, 2017|0 Comments

Whether we are adults or kids, curiosity is a path to happiness. When we allow our imaginations to roam freely and our minds to absorb whatever interests us, we feel happier and less stressed. Our children enter the world as happy little sponges, guided by lighthearted curious natures. Kids love to learn and make sense of the world. When you think about it, the amount of knowledge children acquire by being curious is truly amazing.

  • Encouraging Happiness

Encouraging Happiness: Our children get one chance at being a child.

April 27th, 2017|0 Comments

It’s inevitable that as a parent you will be asked, in a convincing way by your child to support their newest interest. Kids are naturally curious and spend a lot of their lives trying to find their place. What interests them, will it continue to interest them or are they going to stick it out and eventually be great at it. We as their parent have a few ways to respond to this but not all are going to encourage them.

  • I have been Selfish

Sometimes, I am amazed by how selfish I can be.

April 25th, 2017|0 Comments

A good friend of mine, and my minister, Jed Mullinex, says to be closer to God, one must love the things God Loves. Simple enough. I would imagine the opposite is true as well. To be further from God, love the things God doesn’t love. Today, I am excited to introduce you a father who presented me with a ‘teachable moment’ without trying. If you know me or follow this blog, you know I am a believer in Jesus Christ. I have found refuge in knowing that in my toughest times, God has had his hand in my life. Often I didn’t deserve his grace, but thankfully, he was there.

  • How To Increase Your Audience Engagement using Twitter

Grow Your Audience, Increase Engagement, and Find Followers Using Twitter

March 22nd, 2017|0 Comments

One year ago I had no idea how to use Twitter, much less for any type of audience growth. I had seen Twitter IDs and hashtags, but I really had no idea how to leverage either to grow my brand. This article will show you how I went from zero Twitter followers and no reach to 15,000 Twitter followers with a monthly reach of about 750K. If you have any questions, please post the questions below this resource so I can answer them for everyone! I am going through my entire process and sharing it with parent bloggers, so please take a moment and join my GetConnectDad Insiders group where we will walk through everything I am trying to do to grow our site our reach. This group will be talking completely on tactics to build your brand and increase your viewers and influence.

There Are Many Reasons Why People Bully, Some Might Surprise You!

March 4th, 2017|0 Comments

There appear to me to be a lot of mythos surrounding the question as to why people bully. I was bullied for around eight years — probably longer. Since then I have worked with or alongside young people for fourteen years, and I have worked with children for a lot longer than that. I remember one time when I had an interview for a youth work post with someone who was aware of my history of being bullied. They asked me in a very matter-of-fact way “So, how will you stop yourself from bullying our young people?” I was quite frankly gobsmacked and astounded, but I answered her question quite clearly “Some people who are bullied do end up bullying, but that is not a hard-and-fast rule.

“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said. ”
― Peter Drucker

“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Be Healthy

August 22nd, 2016|0 Comments

Key Takeaways So for me, there are 3 key areas to focus on which can help us to be [...]

“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.”
― John Green

There Are Many Reasons Why People Bully, Some Might Surprise You!

March 4th, 2017|0 Comments

There appear to me to be a lot of mythos surrounding the question as to why people bully. I was bullied for around eight years — probably longer. Since then I have worked with or alongside young people for fourteen years, and I have worked with children for a lot longer than that. I remember one time when I had an interview for a youth work post with someone who was aware of my history of being bullied. They asked me in a very matter-of-fact way “So, how will you stop yourself from bullying our young people?” I was quite frankly gobsmacked and astounded, but I answered her question quite clearly “Some people who are bullied do end up bullying, but that is not a hard-and-fast rule.

“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.”
― John Green

4 Ways to Use Vulnerability as Your Parenting Power Tool

June 2nd, 2017|0 Comments

As men, we are told that we need to “suck it up”, “man up”, “never let ’em see ya sweat”. Whether it was from your parents or from society in general, the message was clear. Don’t be vulnerable. Protect yourself and don’t let other’s notice your weakness or sensitivity. Vulnerability movements in male circles are gaining momentum and that’s great news. However, there is one area where I feel that it is still not addressed, though most badly needed: parenting.

Our Selves

August 12th, 2016|0 Comments

We were created, not without form or void, but fearfully and wonderfully made. When two of our worlds cross paths— [...]

Dear Dad

June 19th, 2016|0 Comments

I wish you were still here to see all the things I am doing. I started playing guitar after you died. You would love what I am doing with my children’s music. I remember when you gave Kim the guitar. You never knew I would be the one who would learn to play. I’m working on my fourth CD for children now. You would be so proud. I miss you so much and I miss your love and support. I asked you on your deathbed what you were thinking about and you said, “my family.” I know that you didn’t always get what it meant to be an involved father and you did a lot of things wrong, but I heard you as you knew and regretted those mistakes. You loved us all very much and I know if you could come back you would do so many things differently.

Dear Dad

June 18th, 2016|0 Comments

Dear Dad, Thank you for everything that you provided for our family as I was growing up. As an adult I sometimes think back and remember how comfortable I was growing up, and I don’t recall ever really wanting for much. However, I also recall that as I grew older, you didn’t interact and spend much time with your children. Over the last several years I have tried to figure out how that happened. How could you be such a good provider and create a comfortable home life, but not be a part of other family life activities? As I mulled it over the last 2 or 3 days, I think I finally figured it out.

“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.”
― May Sarton

Be Accountable

“It is wrong and immoral to seek to escape the consequences of one’s acts.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Be Faithful

  • Dear Dad

Dear Dad

October 15th, 2016|0 Comments

You are an amazing father. You need to hear that more often, and hopefully, in ways big and small, [...]

  • ..on Faith

…on faith | Raising Kids With Faith Outside Of Religion

July 29th, 2016|0 Comments

Our son and daughter go to a kindergarten run by the local anglican church. Most non-profits seem to be run by the church here in Germany, in a benevolent Sound of Music kind of way. My daughter loves to sing the songs she’s learned at kindergarten at the top of her little lungs all day and all night. Her favorite song of late goes like this: “lasst uns miteinander, lasst uns miteinander – SINGEN, BETEN, LOBEN DEM HERRN!” (that last part is where I need to cover my ears so I don’t lose what little hearing I have left) The translation is, in effect: “Let us, with one another – SING, PRAY, and PRAISE THE LORD!”

“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.”
― John Holmes

Be Happy

  • Be Happy

Be Happy: keep your head up and to keep going!

June 6th, 2017|0 Comments

When my daughter, Harper, was two-years-old, we were all enjoying a big bowl of spaghetti – a favorite of my daughter’s. She was tired of putting the noodles into her mouth so she decided to see what would happen if she put the noodles in her ear, in her nose and lastly… between her toes. My wife was having none of this and sternly said: “Please don’t put spaghetti between your toes!” I looked at my wife and thought: this is our new normal, and it made me happy.

  • Encouraging Happiness

Encouraging Happiness: Our children get one chance at being a child.

April 27th, 2017|0 Comments

It’s inevitable that as a parent you will be asked, in a convincing way by your child to support their newest interest. Kids are naturally curious and spend a lot of their lives trying to find their place. What interests them, will it continue to interest them or are they going to stick it out and eventually be great at it. We as their parent have a few ways to respond to this but not all are going to encourage them.

There is no need to rush parenting, just let your child blossom.

July 20th, 2016|0 Comments

Usually, when I sit down to write, I find myself easing into a natural flow of words, sentences, and paragraphs as my mind ebbs and flows its contents onto the pages like a calm river on its journey towards fulfilling the knowledge of the sea. However, when I tried to sit down and think how to write about happiness as a trait, I found myself hit with a challenge that I wasn’t sure how to overcome.

Be Generous

“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.”
― John Holmes