Be Supportive, what does that really mean when it comes to a child? To a child being supportive means to listen. Listen to what they are saying. A child needs to be heard. They need their thoughts and idea’s to mean something to you. For this reason, a parent you must be caring, encouraging, sympathetic, helpful and kind. Therefore, as a parent you must listen.
A Child Needs To Be Heard
Kindergarten is starting. It is important I be supportive of him. He is frightened as he is going on his own to a very large place. Today we go to Laura Dearing Elementary School, so he can feel comfortable in his surroundings. The school is not far from our apartment, but he does have to cross a major street, and that worries me. Walking to the school we are discussing the importance of safety.
Reaching the school and he says “Mommy it is so big, is this the school?” and I say “Do you think you are going to be happy going here?” He thinks for a moment and says “Yes”. It is hard for me to let go of him, as it was always been him and I. We walk the grounds of the school and then go inside. As we meet his teachers, he is relaxed, he is not squeezing my hand as tight. He knows I am there and supporting him, encouraging him to succeed.
The first day of school is an exciting. We get up and he dresses himself and I give him his money for lunch. He says “Mommy are you walking me to school today?” I say “Yes”, he says “Good!” I feel good about his response. Some children have separation anxiety leaving there parents on the first day of school. However, this is not the case with my son. Since he attended daycare, he is independent. On the other hand, I can see that he is a little frightened, but I am there supporting him. I took the day off of work for this day, knowing that this is an important day for him. I encourage him to go into school, and I tell him, “I will see you after school.”
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As The Day Goes On
As the day goes on, I think about how his day is going and everything he is going to want to tell me. Above all, I must listen to what he is telling me. If it is important to him, then it is important to me. Cleaning the house and run my errands, waiting for the time to meet up with him at school. I am at the school waiting for him to come out of those doors. Then the doors open and all the children are running to their parents will smiles on their faces. Finally, here is my son, running to me with colored papers in his hands, “Look mommy, look what I drawed for you!” As we are walking home, I let him talk about his day!
The Right To Their Opinions
Thinking to myself, “My son will learn to have an opinion”. Of Course, having his own opinion does not mean the opinion is correct. This is where as a parent, I am listening and teaching him right from wrong. For example, one day my son was riding his Big Wheel on the sidewalk. I tell him “You can not ride your Big Wheel that way!” He argues with me, and I stop him. I say “I am going to let you explain why you want to ride your Big Wheel this way, then I am going to explain to you why you can not ride your Big Wheel this way, do you understand?” My son says “Yeah”. He explains to me why.
My Turn To Explain
As I listen to his opinion, with every word he says I think about what I am going to say. Listening for about ten minutes, I finally ask him “Are you finished, because I need you to listen to what I am going to tell you?” He says “Yeah”. I tell him, “Though I support your opinion son, when you ride your Big Wheel this way you will get hurt. When your foot slips, you will fall, do you understand, and I do not want you to get hurt”. At this point, he goes off to play, not liking my answer.
Though I listened to his opinion, and I supported his thoughts, I told him why he was wrong in a nice way.
Allowing Them To Have An Opinion
Within an hours time, I hear screaming and crying in the front of our apartment. Going to the front of the building, I realize the screaming is coming from my son. He has hurt himself and is bleeding. Taking him into my arms I race upstairs and clean up his wounds. Looking at the injury, I decide he is going to need stitches in his bottom lip. At this point we go to Urgent Care. Long story short, my son now has 7 stitches in his bottom lip. Upon Arriving home, he is tired and lays down for a nap. I did not scold him for not listening to me, about why he should not ride his Big Wheel the way he did. I decide to be supportive. From here on, I believe he learned a valuable lesson, as he no longer rode his Big Wheel the wrong way.
To Be Continued…
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