Helping A Child’s Self-Identity Come Out On Top

When it comes to helping our child develop healthily, self-identity is one of the harder aspects to truly nail down. It’s about confidence, but it’s also about how they see not only themselves but the world around them. It’s about their values, their sense of personality, and more besides. Here are a few ways you can help them both discover and enjoy a better self-identity.

Finding their passion

When we think of who we are, we often think of what we do. There’s nothing wrong with it. What we enjoy is how we impact the world and let it impact us. People who grow up without a passion often grow up without a sense of identity, so helping your child find their passion early can give them a strong core to work with. Hobbies like sports and creative endeavors are simply good for their physical and emotional well being, besides.

Encouraging virtue

Teaching morals is difficult. Helping them learn wrong and right isn’t always a straight path. But you can take steps to find virtuous activities and raise a more generous child, a more charitable child, and a more responsible child. For instance, if they’re playing sports, then take the time to congratulate them not just for when they excel but when they take part in good team play or show good sportsmanship. Get involved in volunteering and community activities with them and help them explain how it can ease suffering in others. Virtue isn’t self-taught. We all have innate good and bad in us, so you have to be an influence for the good.

Celebrating it

Don’t forget to celebrate your child’s sense of identity either, even if you don’t always understand it. For instance, if they have a hobby, show some interest in it and help them find friends or peer groups that share it. Even little touches like photos of themselves and personalized gifts can help them feel better about their identity, so visit for more information. Celebrating their identity is your way of letting them know, as they grow up, that it’s okay for them to be who they are.

Curbing bad influence

Self-identity isn’t just what we are, it’s what we aren’t, as well. Tackling bad impulses and teaching them to be more critical of messages they get from peers and the influence of media, as suggested by is just as important. You won’t always be there to help them decide right from wrong, so teaching them a little critical thinking and helping them be more responsible for their own reactions to those influences can help strengthen the good in them and reinforce that self-identity.

Of course, you and your child are not going to figure out all the secrets of the self any time soon. It’s a lifelong process that continues for as long as we’re alive. But if you can help them feel self-confidence, self-esteem, recognize both their virtues and their faults, then you’re setting them up for a much healthier journey of lifelong discovery.

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Julian Caldwell

Julian Caldwell

Julian Ivey-Caldwell founded GetConnectDAD with one simple goal: Connect more families to their kids. Julian works a day job and spends his evenings (after the family retires) continuing to grow this platform. Because he travels a great deal for his “day job,” he is intensely focused on trying to find better ways for fathers and mothers who work long hours, different hours, or unusual hours find better ways to be engaged.

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