- Leading by example is of all the traits the most important step
- If you are patient with your child and show compassion, they will do the same to you and others
- Being able to say no from time to time is very important.
- Give your seat to an elderly person or a lady if you are a gentle man.
One may argue that compassion is what makes us human; it separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.
I for one see a lot of animals give more compassion than some humans that walk upon our Earth. It is of my belief that compassion is what sets us apart and helps us move forward as a society.
I am speaking as a layman and not as a psychologist or sociologist, but most cruel people I have seen came from a cruel upbringing. Many of us did not come from the most loving home, but only a few of us, will break the chains and show our children compassion. I realize this looking back on my own family and seeing how cruel they are too each other and to me when the chance comes around. I never show them the same cruelty, but feel sorry for them. I am starting out my article with this little fact about me, so others realize they can overcome their past and make a better future for their children.
I love to see my son’s eyes light up as I show him love, take time with him, work with him on how to do things and of course our favorite thing – playing music together. We are very pleased with Dave, how he wants to share his toys with strange kids on the playground. While other kids not only screams when another child touches their toys, but also tries to take toys away from other children. I am convinced that the children acting out is a result of seeing their parents doing the same thing to people in their lives.
As everything else in life, you set the example and bar for your child’s take on life. If you are patient with your child and show compassion, they will do the same to you and others. Many times I see a small one in the subway screaming at their parent, only to see the parent unleash on the child; it is easy to see where the child gets their traits from.
Leading by example is of all the traits the most important step. Telling a kid do as I say and not as I do has never and will never work – no matter who is trying to command this statement. Help people in your area, be kind to others that need it. Give your seat to an elderly person or a lady if you are a gentle man. All of these things will bear fruit in your child.
Good and bad habits are passed down the family tree; the bad ones are the chains that are incredibly difficult to break, so be kind and take that burden upon yourself, keeping your little one from needing to break them.
At the same time it is very important not to confuse being compassionate with a child to spoiling them. Show them love, take time with them, help them learn and understand, but understand the most compassionate thing you can do for your child is to not ruin their future by not being able to say no from time to time.
Our children’s minds are like a vast hard drive that records every breath, threat, cruel, compassionate, loving thing you do. Show them and others around you compassion and it will reflect in your child’s traits.