Wow, you say? Dad of The Year, you say? You run a successful parenting blog, you say? Yes, yes, yes. You see, the reality is I lost custody of my 22-year-old daughter when she was 13. I had 13 wonderful years where I was activity engaged in her life. That time came to an end when a judge, who knew me for less than 2 hours, took my engagement in her life away. The judge said, “I know she testified that she wants to stay with the father, but she is a girl and needs to be with her mom.” That was ten years ago.
There I was sitting criss cross applesauce on the floor of my Lowe’s Home Improvement store with my son. I realized I had just messed up the wood working project we embarked on 20 minutes earlier. Around us were kids hammering away on their projects when our project came to a quiet stop. I had made a mistake that could not be undone and I knew my son was going to be upset. Over the summer my son and I got involved with the Lowe’s Build and Grow program. This program teaches kids how to work with tools and develop new skills by completing small woodworking projects. This summer Lowe’s had the Avengers. My son and I were hooked on building them all.
We forgive you, our Hannah Banana Beth, for breaking down our dishes to an odd number, and for putting random things into our drinking glasses when we aren’t looking;
How do you teach someone a skill that you haven’t mastered yourself? How do you lead someone through a journey you don’t quite know how to navigate yourself? How do you teach your sons to be forgiving when you are still learning how to forgive? This is the predicament I face as a father in trying to teach my sons how to be forgiving. With having two rambunctious boys in the house, there are plenty opportunities to teach them how to be forgiving. Someone is usually getting kicked, punched, stepped or elbowed by accident or “accident”, on a daily basis. So the lessons on how to properly apologize and how to forgive are quite frequent.
Why is it so hard to forgive? First of all we have to be wronged in order to forgive. We don’t go around pre-forgiving someone for something that has not yet happened to us. Secondly, forgiving involves our emotions. When we have been wronged there are a whole mess of [...]
Without a doubt, the hardest part of life is doing it with other people. The very things that make us human make it difficult for us to be human together, especially with the same people for a length of time. There is a cruelly comical irony in this fact. The [...]
For all the occasions, In fatherhood of sheer frustration. It's a fit of shouting and screaming, For no apparent reason. When we're crossing the road, Yet refusing my hand to hold. There's toys all over the floor, And you still want more. It's one in the morning, You're showing [...]
We all do stupid things. We're inherently selfish beings who, at times, do things without any regard for others. We hurt people. Sometimes physically, sometimes emotionally, sometimes mentally. Basically, we're all jerks at some point in time. Some more than others, but you get the point. Not one person reading [...]