I am a lucky dad; both of my boys are well mannered and kind human beings. My little one Alonzo is especially sweet to everyone around him. He is also a big, strong dude. He is only eight years old but already over 110lb’s and can do more pushups than most adults. The kid is the […]
There is no doubt that in being a Dad there is a shift in how you think and how you feel.
This can hit us at different times…
For me, it was when my daughters were born and had to stay in the hospital’s special care nursery for a few weeks…
The first time we had to leave them […]
Creating A Budget That Empowers You!
When was the last time that you created a budget?
What was the experience like?
Do you still budget month to month?
Everyone has their own opinions about the dreaded “B” word. Yes, I’m talking about the budget. Depending on who you talk to, some people might shudder at the […]
I’ll be honest from the start; I don’t take much interest in politics and the news in general. I will take the occasional look especially when it’s a major election like the one just gone in the USA or the vote for Brexit.
I have found it quite inspirational that a woman was in the running and […]
Every day, I realize how different you see things, how your imagination creates a whole new playground no matter where you are. How a book suddenly becomes a mountain for little toy men to climb, a towel becomes a river for a boat to sail on and a cardboard box becomes a garage for your cars.
The road through adolescence may seem like a long journey while it is happening, but in reality it is just a small moment in our lives. It is also a critical time. Children develop interests, hobbies, and study skills, and personality traits that will last them a life time. Sometimes kids will pick up on some […]
As the current election season rolls on and we now have a clearer picture of who will be occupying the White House next January, I can’t help but shake my head. Among family, friends and colleagues, it seems every opinion I hear is steeped in two primary feelings: 1) We are voting against […]
Are You Envious of Other Peoples Success? The 3 Steps I Took To Help End Professional Jealousy.
Envy: a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another’s advantages, success, or possessions.
A few years ago I worked at an inbound call-center as a technical helpdesk analyst. I hated my job and felt as if I was just […]
Encouragement is one of the most important elements to anyone’s development. The tool that great leaders use to set the flame ‘a blaze’ in their team and one of the best tools for any parent to use to ensure their children are privileged enough to have all the tools they need […]
I know my words,
For now he’ll listen to.
He’ll try to mimic.
Yet in the morrows,
I hope he’ll take my words in,
Heed my morsel of wisdom.
And only empower him.
I hope my weaknesses,
My many mistakes,
He’ll never go through,
But learn from,
to be all that i wasn’t,
to be strong of all i was afraid of,
And only empower him.
This journey we call fatherhood is extraordinary. In every way. From the birth of my first child, to the adoption of my second, to the arrival of my third, I am in awe of the little lives that have been entrusted to my care and my love. As much as I hope to teach them, they, by far, have taught me way more than I thought even possible. Through their adventures, I see the world in bright, new colors. Through their sleepy eyes, I am reminded, myself, to slow down. I relish in the pure bigness and unencumbered love they radiate towards me. How can I possibly hope to live up to their expectations of me? What can I possibly give to them that is more valuable, or at least of equal value, than the bursting joy they so freely share with me each day?
At the onset of my fatherhood, I made a very conscious effort to pay close attention to everything. In the beginning, that meant mostly the health of my wife and outfitting our home with things we would need for our twins’ arrival. It wasn’t very long before I had to prepare much more than that. That meant me…internally. As the months and trimesters went by, I saw myself intrinsically evolving into a father. The paternal instincts were budding and growing inside. Now, that’s not to say that angst, fear and uncertainty never crept in. In fact, there was a constant battle between the two extremes throughout the pregnancy. In most instances I felt relatively confident and assured that I could handle anything thrown my way. But at any given moment, that could change to doubt. Somehow, I still realized that this is probably normal and that most expectant fathers are likely to share these feelings at one point or another.