“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” – Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of the United States of America.
As I have said in an earlier article, being personable to people in my youth was very difficult for me; I was the shy kid that hid behind my guitar and let it do all the speaking for me, so I count it as a great blessing that my son enjoys and goes out of his way to communicate with people.
The little guy even has one store clerk wrapped around his finger. He went out of his way to get her to pay attention to her and was very playful with her. He always seems to be able to make anyone smile.
Teaching a child to be comfortable in their own skin, I believe, has a lot to do with how they interact with new people. I look back at the difference between my son and I’s upbringing: I was raised way back in the woods and did not get around other children until I was in kindergarten; he was born in a city of about a million and a half people. He also grew up seeing me speaking to the neighbors and randomly being polite to someone I don’t know. I knew our family members and only seen other people when mom or dad would drive us into town to the local store. Miles of farms and woods made sure I loved the outdoors and animals, but was uncomfortable with meeting new people and had trouble with my fellow students.
Well, that was until my dad got remarried and my older step-brother decided to help me out. Really Frank was the person that gave me the push I needed. He was the outgoing guy that knew everyone and had no problem with falling into a new group of people and being the life of the party. Not the idiot of the event, but the one that could make everyone laugh.
Later on, I moved to Hollywood and was able to work in sales. My strong point was being able to understand foreigners and their customs, but it was really Frank that brought this out in me.
I am writing about my hardships in early childhood to let people realize your children need socialization early in life. Doesn’t matter if it is play dates, some sort of sports club, playing video games with friends or sleepovers. As early as possible get them with other children. Trust me, I know living in the boondocks can make it difficult, but for their own good you need to.
Dave has learned so much by playing with other kids in the playground. Most of the kids are a year older than him and he actually learned to wave by seeing a girl waving goodbye to everyone. He has learned not all kids share as he does. Dave offers his toys to kids in the sandbox and is always interested in what they are doing. He has learned to take turns from his older friend Maria, she is a year and a half older than he. On the same note, he has taught a boy a bit older than him not to be so afraid of other children. Though Dave is so young he recognized this boy was not comfortable around other kids and kept going over to him and attempting to play with him.
Teaching your kids to socialize is one of the most important traits to instill in your child. This will not just help them on the playground with other kids, but will help them have a much healthier work and personal life in their future.
Have fun and enjoy your little one.