Having parents who want to be involved with your kids is a blessing. Having kids who want to be around their grandparents is a gift as well. Family time, especially the quality you give it, is vital. Strong connections have been found to correlate with a longer and happier life. It’s not a definite factor, of course, but it can certainly help.
There are few things from my life I remember from a very early age. I remember watching super-8 movies [...]
Wow, you say? Dad of The Year, you say? You run a successful parenting blog, you say? Yes, yes, yes. You see, the reality is I lost custody of my 22-year-old daughter when she was 13. I had 13 wonderful years where I was activity engaged in her life. That time came to an end when a judge, who knew me for less than 2 hours, took my engagement in her life away. The judge said, “I know she testified that she wants to stay with the father, but she is a girl and needs to be with her mom.” That was ten years ago.
Every parent, child & parent-child relationship is unique and thus so should be the style. This is not to say that we may not incorporate other styles but rather the styles & methods we exhibit may or may not be similar. What I can do and what I am more than happy to do is share my story, my story as a dad & husband. It will inspire you to go one way or another but that direction will be totally based on your parenting direction. Wow, with that now off my chest where should I begin? Ah yes, anything in parenting. Well, that certainly narrows it down. Hmmm.
When my daughter, Harper, was two-years-old, we were all enjoying a big bowl of spaghetti – a favorite of my daughter’s. She was tired of putting the noodles into her mouth so she decided to see what would happen if she put the noodles in her ear, in her nose and lastly… between her toes. My wife was having none of this and sternly said: “Please don’t put spaghetti between your toes!” I looked at my wife and thought: this is our new normal, and it made me happy.
If we truly believe that parents and teachers must be allies in education and partners in the nurturing of the whole child, then we must consistently explore ways to not only engage parents with the school community but to actively involve them in the process of meeting the essential needs of every student.
As men, we are told that we need to “suck it up”, “man up”, “never let ’em see ya sweat”. Whether it was from your parents or from society in general, the message was clear. Don’t be vulnerable. Protect yourself and don’t let other’s notice your weakness or sensitivity. Vulnerability movements in male circles are gaining momentum and that’s great news. However, there is one area where I feel that it is still not addressed, though most badly needed: parenting.