All dads are superheroes in the eyes of their kids. To them, we’re huge towers of strength, capable of not only feats of superhuman power and endurance but also keepers of wisdom that will inform their learning as they grow and develop. Unfortunately, however, if the relationship with the mother of your child has waned, it can be difficult to see in yourself the same strong, clever, capable man that is reflected in the eyes of your child every time they look at you. Many single fathers suffer from issues of self-esteem, anxiety and/or depression. Life is hard for a single parent of any gender, particularly when it comes to finances. Plus, you will have fairly recently gotten out of a relationship or worse still become a widower and so you will be wrestling with the psychological uncertainties that plague the newly single as well as the ever present “am I doing enough? Is this right? Am I unintentionally damaging my kids if I do this?” anxieties that all parents face.
Worry not, though, because you are a superhero. You can stand shoulder to shoulder with Superman, Iron Man, Batman or Captain America because you’re awesome! Here’s why…
You never stop fighting for what’s right
What is a superhero if not a tireless champion for justice? You do this every day and it’s so much a part of your nature that you probably don’t even notice. You worked tirelessly with your ex and your divorce lawyer to ensure fair and mutually suitable terms of custody. You teach your kids the difference between right and wrong and how to choose right every day. You understand that the right thing is virtually never the easiest thing and work tirelessly to do what’s right anyway.
You’ve turned adversity into advantage
Just like Bruce Wayne and Tony Stark were able to take a personal tragedy and transform it into an opportunity to do good, so too do you work every day to turn your adversity into an advantage. Behind every single parent, there’s a painful story, but you owned and overcame your pain, and refusing to become mired in it, you used it as an engine to propel you and your kids into a happier and healthier new life for the good of their development and your new family unit.
You’re a role model and an inspiration
Any hero worth his or her salt knows that there’s a huge difference between talking the talk and walking the walk. We know that we can’t expect our kids to do what’s right if we’re not prepared to model that behavior for them. That’s why you take your position as a role model seriously and allow it to influence your behavior to make you a better person, no matter how worrying, stressful or overwhelming life can get at times.
You may not wear a cape and a mask to work and you might not wield a magic hammer or be able to shoot lasers out of your eyes. But in all the ways that matter to your kids, you are a superhero!
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