Some say,”Empathy is a thing of the past; something that is lost to the new generation.” Others proclaim,”It has always been this, and that people need to stop being romantic about our past.”

I am neither romantic of this idea or blind to see that we have always had people that rather was not born being empathetic or somewhere in their upbringing lost it. However, I do see a rise in the population becoming less and less caring for others around them. I am one who believes social media has made people not only somewhat anti-social but also made them lose a general interest in others.

I am in my mid-thirties and I can remember a time when my father would run across an old friend. They would sit down and have coffee making plans to visit the other. Today, we still run across people but when it comes time to “catch-up,” little is information has to be exchanged: it’s all on each person’s wall. I am guilty of all of the above, being an author sort of requires me to engage in social media; however, I try and keep some things private. When I speak with friends, I at least have a few things to tell them they have not already heard before.

To be better parents, we must understand how social media is changing the way our children are interacting.

People have argued whether empathy could be taught or is it innate. I believe we are born with some and learn the rest. In my experience, some people are just born with more empathy than others.

It Starts At Home

Instilling any trait in your child starts at home. Your child seeing how empathetic mom and dad are to each other I believe is the catalyst to how empathetic your child will turn out. My son saw my wife using the back massager on me the other day and he decided he was going to help out. Crawled over and was trying to help mom hold the machine. He witnesses a lot between us; our differences in age, our cultures, our race, and our favorite, native tongues. My wife is very mature, but there are somethings she doesn’t understand and Dave sees dad trying to be patient and explain things to her. One of the more frustrating things he sees is when mom tries to explain something to me and something is lost in translation! I understand Russian pretty well for an American, but at times, one of those six endings puts me get the wrong end of the stick.

Our kids are always watching and learning from us parents.

In Public

When you aren’t home, your child will notice how you treat others. My son watches me help out the elderly who live in our building. He watches my wife help her mother. Dave loves to share with his godmother’s daughter, there is only a two-day difference in age. He sees that when mom is shopping for him, she always gets at least one thing for Michelle. His godmother always has something in hand for him.

We are blessed to have such a Godmother. She called and told us she was buying a training toilet for her daughter and asked if she could get one for Dave as well. I often hear her or my wife calling each other and asking if their child needed something. This is something both children will have at the back of their minds and not even realize it – shaping their future choices.


All of us need to take better care of each other so our children can have a better world.

In The End

This is one of the most challenging traits to teach your children; it is also one of the most important. We all make mistakes in our lives.

Owning up to a wrong doing or short-coming to a person is something your child will remember.
Try to be as good as you can to all those around you.
Correct your child when they do wrong to another.
Admit when you have accidentally wronged another.
Your little one will take these lesson with them – far after we are all gone.

“Empathy is about standing in someone else’s shoes, feeling with his or her heart, seeing with his or her eyes. Not only is empathy hard to outsource and automate, but it makes the world a better place.” – Daniel H. Pink





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