Do you ever have fights with your baby Mumma so much that it’s almost like every interaction turns into some stupid little dispute?  No matter how you approach it, no matter how nice you are…Fight after fight after fight.  Since when did you become this person?  Since when did the relationship even get to this point?  It can sneak up on you that’s for sure…

When your female counterpart pushes your buttons, looks for reactions or seems like purposefully trying to get you fired up, she is testing you.  And in a time when things are tough, young warrior, I know how exhausting this can be.  What if I told you that the cure for all of those annoyingly ridiculous fights is not in having the best come back, making sure you do nothing wrong or doing all the chores around the house…

But in finding your purpose.

So, what’s yours?

This may be a question that you’ve never even thought or heard of, but it is probably the most important thing you will need to work out in your lifetime.What is your gift and how will you bring it to this world?  Let me just quench any immediate things you might think of, like what your parents want you to do or being there for you kids.

These are not your purpose.  What is the gift you have that the world needs to hear/see/feel?  David Deida’s The Way of The Superior Man is possibly one of, if not, THE most important book for any man to read.

(Listen to the audio book on Youtube for FREE, no excuses!!)

In it, he talks about how being on your path and having a purpose are what makes men deeply rooted in their masculine energy.

And this is what creates attraction between the female and male energies.

So, when she tests you by bringing up old problems or insignificant things, she wants to know that you are unwavering and unmovable from your purpose and path in life.

The shear the fact that you engage in the bickering about who left the toilet seat up or down again means that you are not grounded and misaligned with your greater purpose.

What she wants is for you to ‘man up,’ attack life, pursue your dreams and solve problems.  She wants a man in his fullness so that he can give his best-self to her and the world through love and affection.


Understanding this is going to change your life literally.  No purpose? No worries…  How do I find it when I’m young and don’t know what I want from life?

Here are some tips:

  1. Periods of isolation or solitude

In The Way of The Superior Man, David Deida talks about how doing this allows you to connect with your deepest self.
Having no distractions is going to allow your truer self to bubble to the surface.

If it’s an option, take a week where you just go away alone and use the time to think.

If you can’t do that, then allow yourself at least 1 hour a day that is just for you.

  1. Meditation

There are many ways to meditate, its not just sitting there with your eyes closed.

Google these to find one that suits you:

  • Dynamic meditation
  • Shaking Meditation
  • Bioenergetics
  • Mantras
  • Wim hof’s breathing technique
  • Listening to binaural beats (google)
  1. Take action

Once you get an idea of what you want to do in your life, then you must act on it.

Otherwise, you will end up in the same position you were in before.

Taking action is the single most important thing to do when it comes to development and making a significant change.

Let me know what your purpose is below.

What is GetConnectDAD?


@GetConnectDAD is an international project focused on One goal:  More ConnectDAD families.   We are 150 writers from around the world, focused on 52 Traits we want in our children.

Each week, parents from around the world are writing on a specific topic as part of a year’s worth of introspection on some key traits we want to consider for our kids.

Our writers answer the question, “What do you do to teach your kids about Empowerment, Generosity, etc?”

We understand that no one can focus on 52 unique traits; however, we hope that parents are able to think about each of these ‘traits’ as they are introduced and consider what they are doing to introduce components to their kids.